Individuals who suddenly resort to weight loss when in a steady relationship are most likely preparing to dump their partners, says a study. Lisa Antao explores the insecurity the other partner feels.
You've been in a steady relationship with your partner for some time now and your partner's extra pounds doesn't seem to have bothered him/her so far. But all of a sudden when your partner starts losing weight or has developed a sudden obsession with the gym or playing sports, that might get you a bit worried. You start developing irrational fears that your new, better revamped partner might secretly be having somebody special in their life other than you or that they might simply dump you!
Well, if you think on those lines, you aren't being paranoid. A new study has revealed that individuals who suddenly resort to losing weight whilst in a steady relationship are most likely preparing to dump their partner! The reasoning behind the inference is that in happy relationships, individuals tend to get fat because there's less pressure to look good. Subsequently, when one is on the lookout for a new partner, he/she is trying to look as attractive as possible. Clinical pyschiatrist and psychotherapist, Varkha Chulani feels the study is too generalised: "There are plenty of reasons that can be attributed to the motives behind someone deciding to look better, fitter, slimmer and it's not just that there is trouble in their marriage".
Television actor Shweta Kawatra, partially agrees to the study. She says, "I find the study absurd but agree to the fact that in some cases people do tend to get fat as a result of getting complacent about one's physical attractiveness while in a steady relationship for example, marriage. However, personally speaking, I'm not the types who would dump my partner just like that. In my case, I workout regularly and eat right not for my husband, but for myself. May be such unfortunate incidents happen to other people."
For those feeling insecure about your revamped, slimmer and better looking partner, couples counsellor Shreya Poddar advises, "If you are feeling insecure you need to work on yourself and not focus on your partner and what he/she is doing! Insecurity is never about the other person, it is always a lack of belief in yourself and an idea that you are not good enough to retain him/her. So, focus on your anxiety producing ideas and work terribly hard to correct them. Then after that if looking better makes you feel better go for it!"
You've been in a steady relationship with your partner for some time now and your partner's extra pounds doesn't seem to have bothered him/her so far. But all of a sudden when your partner starts losing weight or has developed a sudden obsession with the gym or playing sports, that might get you a bit worried. You start developing irrational fears that your new, better revamped partner might secretly be having somebody special in their life other than you or that they might simply dump you!
Well, if you think on those lines, you aren't being paranoid. A new study has revealed that individuals who suddenly resort to losing weight whilst in a steady relationship are most likely preparing to dump their partner! The reasoning behind the inference is that in happy relationships, individuals tend to get fat because there's less pressure to look good. Subsequently, when one is on the lookout for a new partner, he/she is trying to look as attractive as possible. Clinical pyschiatrist and psychotherapist, Varkha Chulani feels the study is too generalised: "There are plenty of reasons that can be attributed to the motives behind someone deciding to look better, fitter, slimmer and it's not just that there is trouble in their marriage".
Television actor Shweta Kawatra, partially agrees to the study. She says, "I find the study absurd but agree to the fact that in some cases people do tend to get fat as a result of getting complacent about one's physical attractiveness while in a steady relationship for example, marriage. However, personally speaking, I'm not the types who would dump my partner just like that. In my case, I workout regularly and eat right not for my husband, but for myself. May be such unfortunate incidents happen to other people."
For those feeling insecure about your revamped, slimmer and better looking partner, couples counsellor Shreya Poddar advises, "If you are feeling insecure you need to work on yourself and not focus on your partner and what he/she is doing! Insecurity is never about the other person, it is always a lack of belief in yourself and an idea that you are not good enough to retain him/her. So, focus on your anxiety producing ideas and work terribly hard to correct them. Then after that if looking better makes you feel better go for it!"
