Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts

Friday, February 3, 2012

Parental fights causes stress among kids


Children who get distressed because of constant parental conflicts have higher levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, according to scientists.
While it is known that children who witness their parents fighting are prone to psychological problems, the biological responses going on behind these behavioural reactions have now been uncovered. The study, by researchers at the University of Rochester, the University of Minnesota and the University of Notre Dame, was conducted on 208 6-year-olds and their mothers.



"Our results indicate that children who are distressed by conflict between their parents show greater biological sensitivity to conflict in the form of higher levels of the stress hormone, cortisol," said Patrick T. Davies, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, who led the study.
He added, "Because higher levels of cortisol have been linked to a wide range of mental and physical health difficulties, high levels of cortisol may help explain why children who experience high levels of distress when their parents argue are more likely to experience later health problems."
The authors suggested that the study has implications for policy and practice. The common practice of judging how well intervention programs are doing, based solely on improvements in how children function psychologically may need to be changed to include physiological measures like cortisol levels.
The findings revealed that children who were very distressed by the conflicts in the lab had higher levels of cortisol in response to their parents fighting.
Children's levels of hostility and their involvement during the arguments weren''t always related to their levels of cortisol, the study found. But children who were very distressed and very involved in response to parental fighting had especially high levels of cortisol.
The researchers aimed to find out if children who showed specific behaviour patterns of reacting to conflict also had changes in cortisol levels during simulated telephone arguments between their parents.
For the study, they measured children's distress, hostility, and level of involvement in the arguments, and received reports from the mothers about how their children responded when parents fought at home. Then, cortisol levels were measured by taking saliva samples before and after the conflicts in the lab.

Friday, December 30, 2011

Be a brilliant part-time dad


When a marriage breaks down, it tends to be the dad who leaves the family home.

And the latest figures show that after a split, mums get to spend an average of 70 per cent of the time with the kids - with dad often relegated to weekend-only visits at best. As a result, fathers are sometimes the forgotten victims of a divorce, who end up struggling to be a part of their children's lives.

Family counsellor Denise Knowles says she has also noticed a definite rise in this phenomenon. "We're seeing a lot more men who have separated from the mother of their children, and feel anxious about how they can continue to play an important role in their child's life, especially if a new partner comes along," Denise explains, adding, "When you don't see your children every day, it can be tough to maintain a strong connection. But not living under the same roof doesn't have to mean being less involved. There are lots of things you can do to be an active dad."

- Be civil with your ex: However you feel about the mother of your children, having an amicable
parenting relationship goes a long way to help you stay part of their lives.
- Get involved in the day-to-day: Stay involved in the normal daily stuff. Talk to them about their friends and interests, go to parent-teacher events and ask their school for details of your child's progress.
- Schedule some 'unspecial' time: Treating your kids is great, but being a dad isn't just about fun times. It's just as important to sit down to eat together or watch TV - and to be there when discipline is needed.
- Show you're still a family: Regardless of how the relationship between mum and dad ended, you're still a family. Children must see both of you in parenting roles.