Dealing with a chatterbox friend may try your patience. Here's how to tell her to shut up, without being rude
You are meeting your college friend after a long time, and before you can start by telling her how glad you are to meet her, she suddenly starts yapping about her boyfriend, work, life without giving you the chance to reciprocate. A talkative friend can be really frustrating at times, especially when they give you no chance to speak. But, need not worry; you can deal with this behaviour by using a combination of assertiveness and respect.
Rajan Bhonsle, relationship expert, says, "If you have an excessively talkative friend, it does not necessarily mean that she is an irritating person. It can be a trait of her extrovert and bubbly personality. You need to apply certain tricks to deal with your friend without hurting her feelings."
Effective communication
Communication forms the core ingredient of any relationship. If you are very close to your friend who talks too much, let her know. This will not only help you but her too. Says relationship expert, Seema Hingorrany, "When people talk too much, they do not realise that after a point, they start boring people and annoying them with their self-centered conversation. If the person is very close to you, tell her about her habit, so that it benefits both of you."
Deal tactfully
Excuse yourself graciously from the conversation when you find your friend going on and on about a particular topic which you find irritating.
Understand the situation
Lot of times, when people go through difficult phases in life, they tend to talk allot. Says Bhonsle, "If your friend has gone through some kind of relationship crisis, it is evitable that she will talk. In such cases, you should allow your friend to vent out her feelings." This will help her to not only get over the phase but prevent her from talking about it in future.
Grab the opportunity
When your friend takes a pause to sip on her coffee, make use of the opportunity and start talking about something different. This will automatically change the topic of discussion.
Try to make the conversation interesting
Try putting the point across to your friend that you are getting extremely bored. Make sure you are polite enough. Try to initiate a talk about something of interest to you. This will keep you engaged in the conversation.
Cut the conversation short
Tell your friend that you are running short of time and have to make it for a family function or an interview. Promise her that you will meet her next time and will hear her completely. Take the blame upon yourself and cut the conversation short.
Give a no-interest look
If at all, you are left with no more patience to listen to your friend, make sure to give her a no-interest look. This look works wonders! She will immediately stop yapping! Noncommittal responses & less active participation are the best ways to give hints to the person that you are getting extremely bored with the one-way conversation.
Be smart
-If your friend talks too much, handle it with a short answer, not giving her a chance to speak further or simply ignore the conversation by doing something else.
-If your friend is getting onto your nerves, simply tell her politely that you would want to talk about something of interest.
-Try to meet your friend for a shorter period of time. This will lead to you spending less time with your friend and getting less bored with her non-stop talking.
-If you are in a big group, you can avoid the talkative friend by talking to someone else.
-Remember, it is okay for you to let your friend know that their too much of talking is boring you, and at times is really irritating.
You are meeting your college friend after a long time, and before you can start by telling her how glad you are to meet her, she suddenly starts yapping about her boyfriend, work, life without giving you the chance to reciprocate. A talkative friend can be really frustrating at times, especially when they give you no chance to speak. But, need not worry; you can deal with this behaviour by using a combination of assertiveness and respect.
Rajan Bhonsle, relationship expert, says, "If you have an excessively talkative friend, it does not necessarily mean that she is an irritating person. It can be a trait of her extrovert and bubbly personality. You need to apply certain tricks to deal with your friend without hurting her feelings."
Effective communication
Communication forms the core ingredient of any relationship. If you are very close to your friend who talks too much, let her know. This will not only help you but her too. Says relationship expert, Seema Hingorrany, "When people talk too much, they do not realise that after a point, they start boring people and annoying them with their self-centered conversation. If the person is very close to you, tell her about her habit, so that it benefits both of you."
Deal tactfully
Excuse yourself graciously from the conversation when you find your friend going on and on about a particular topic which you find irritating.
Understand the situation
Lot of times, when people go through difficult phases in life, they tend to talk allot. Says Bhonsle, "If your friend has gone through some kind of relationship crisis, it is evitable that she will talk. In such cases, you should allow your friend to vent out her feelings." This will help her to not only get over the phase but prevent her from talking about it in future.
Grab the opportunity
When your friend takes a pause to sip on her coffee, make use of the opportunity and start talking about something different. This will automatically change the topic of discussion.
Try to make the conversation interesting
Try putting the point across to your friend that you are getting extremely bored. Make sure you are polite enough. Try to initiate a talk about something of interest to you. This will keep you engaged in the conversation.
Cut the conversation short
Tell your friend that you are running short of time and have to make it for a family function or an interview. Promise her that you will meet her next time and will hear her completely. Take the blame upon yourself and cut the conversation short.
Give a no-interest look
If at all, you are left with no more patience to listen to your friend, make sure to give her a no-interest look. This look works wonders! She will immediately stop yapping! Noncommittal responses & less active participation are the best ways to give hints to the person that you are getting extremely bored with the one-way conversation.
Be smart
-If your friend talks too much, handle it with a short answer, not giving her a chance to speak further or simply ignore the conversation by doing something else.
-If your friend is getting onto your nerves, simply tell her politely that you would want to talk about something of interest.
-Try to meet your friend for a shorter period of time. This will lead to you spending less time with your friend and getting less bored with her non-stop talking.
-If you are in a big group, you can avoid the talkative friend by talking to someone else.
-Remember, it is okay for you to let your friend know that their too much of talking is boring you, and at times is really irritating.
People who cannot learn to discipline themselves cannot learn to command.
