Unplanned sex spices up love life

Don't let monotony creep into your relationship - there are plenty of things you can do to spice things up.

Ditch the 'I have a headache', 'The kids have tired me out today' or 'I'm too busy' excuses and win your partner over inside as well as outside the bedroom. We list out some simple ideas...

- It is easy to get stuck in a mundane routine. Experts suggest you keep aside date nights exclusively for yourself and your partner. Why should marriage stop you from having fun just by yourselves? Be spontaneous and do things that you used to do as a couple but haven't since a while.

- Planned sex needn't be boring. Get busy in places around the house which you haven't explored before. Many couples say that they're usually so tired that when they enter the bedroom, all they can think about is sleep.

- When was the last time you hugged your partner? Sneak up to them and give them a hug. The close contact will immediately turn them on.

- Talk about the positions you tried on in the past. You don't have to use dirty or graphic language. Discuss about past memories and relive them again. You don't have to keep any goals in mind. Just go with the flow and enjoy every moment.

- When was the last time you surprised each other? Slip into the shower when he least expects it. Dress up in something he's never seen you in. Plan a special night without any special occasion.

- Share your fantasies. Don't be shy or afraid of scaring your partner - you never know what you both discover!

- Ever played strip poker? Why not use board games or a deck of cards instead and put them to good use?

- Send your partner a racy text message or an email in the middle of the day. Not only does it take them by surprise, it also builds up the anticipation.

- It's also a good idea to recreate your first dates. Go to places where you used to go when you just got together.

- Don't be afraid of telling your partner what you'd like to try. Men like it when women take charge in the bedroom. Suggest some positions that you haven't tried before and watch him drool!

- Buy a book of new sexual positions and go through it together with your partner. He'll love the fact that you've taken the initiative.

- Don't forget to include kissing in your love making. It often happens that couples get so carried away in the act that they actually forget the intimacy that kissing brings to a relationship.

Be spontaneous, simple for great sex

Source: Healthmeup

Source: Healthmeup

Sex needs to be spontaneous and only then does it completely fulfill and please one. Here are three steps that will guarantee ultimate sexual pleasure.

Don't try too hard: When it comes to great sex, be natural. Trying too hard will make the process harder as no matter how hard you try to curb it, you will let your partner know that you are trying too hard. This is especially true for men who think if he doesn't try variety, the girl won't enjoy the sack session. So he might just try to pull off tricks that might actually turn her off, since she would realize he is not really into the act.

Don't think too much: There is the concept of Gourmet sex, which is touted to be the most fulfilling and satisfying form of sex. It basically means having sex with a free and easy mind and allowing it to be a satisfying experience. Bed is definitely not the place to think. This especially involves women who are extremely self-conscious of their image. While into the act, she is more busy thinking how the guy will react, or is she looking fat. This kind of stuff will pull you out of the moment and get you into a negative spiral where you become sexually ineffective.

Go for simple moves: Great sex is all about simple moves, done in the right manner at the right time. Yes, you have seen a lot of porn and read a lot of stuff and are highly educated on the variety of postures that a couple can enjoy. Wait a while before putting them to action. Good sex is about learning to feel not just with your hands, but with your fingertips too. It's not just being in-tune with her screams, but even to her breathing.

Do not aim at sexual perfection because no such thing exists. Just go with the flow and enjoy the experience.

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